by, Claire on, May 12, 2018 Understanding Loneliness.
With reported news that we are in the grip of a loneliness epidemic, the Daily Mail has reported that one in ten Women feel isolated and lonely. Although in short durations this can often be harmless, over long periods of time, this can cause our health to deteriorate for all sorts of reasons.
There are very different reasons why we all feel lonely and not one reason is exactly the same but we all do have one thing in common, it changes the way we feel about everything and can and often does have a knock on effect across all areas of our lives. Whether we are lonely because we spend the day working from home and caring for young Children or are going through a painful separation or divorce, the feelings and the symptoms are the same.
We take the common assumption that feeling lonely is primary a physical thing but we all now know that is simply not the case. We can feel lonely in a room full of people for one reason or another and if we are battling a particular struggle in life and are not able to share and talk about that, we can feel isolated and cut off. We all need to relate to others, not everyone but at least feel we are not alone. We don’t have to share the same interests, have the same Childhood or the same morals, we just have to find common ground and socially be able to touch another person.
We are by nature social creatures and although many wouldn’t describe themselves as making firm friend foundations at work, the social aspect of a working environment can and often does allow us to stay in touch with others and ourselves. If this happens to be just to talk about the weather or what you are doing at the weekend, it’s a social interaction and you at that particular time mattered.
Many women who leave their employed roles before having Children look forward to the peace and quiet of home, the chance to work from home, look after Children and have ur own schedule and for a while, this works excellently well but over time, many Women begin to feel isolated and cut off from the outside world in a way they can’t explain. They may have avoided the office hierarchy like the plague but there something about it you miss and its being able to relate situations to ourselves. In order for us all to make sense of the world and ourselves, we must have something to relate this to and social interaction is vital.
There are situations where sadness for events on our life can simply engulf us, we have people around us that can help but we are not at the stage to accept that help or consider it. In fact any offers of help only aggravate the feelings of loneliness. In situations like this, we need to find an outlet, to be able to make the choice to be alone until we are ready to find social interaction is welcome again. Many women don’t know how to find an outlet, to find a place to be for as long as needed where they can be themselves and work through their issues. Alexandra Heminsley found herself on an exact situation of loneliness when going through IVF. The struggle through IVF left Alexander feeling like she couldn’t relate or communicate with anyone and felt questions asked about her journey irritating and intrusive. Alexander found an outlet by Sea swimming, not only did Alexander find renewed faith in herself, her confidence grew and she found this was an excellent outlet for letting go of negative emotions with a group of other swimmers,
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